This exercise is a guided meditation.

Find a place to relax.

Be very honest with yourself, this exercise is just for you.

Choose a person in your life that you don‘t like and that is provoking a strong emotion in you, like anger or irritation.

Now imagine you go to a nice restaurant where a table is already prepared. Imagine your enemy is already sitting at this table, looking at you.
Look at your enemy.
Find the specific emotion that you don’t like. You can even exaggerate this emotion.
I.e. “I am angry at you because you were passing over my emotions like a catarpillar.”

Now look back at your life if you can find a situation in which you did the same to yourself or someone else.
F.e. “I was walking over my emotions without listening to them”, “Yesterday I just went straight for what I wanted without considering my partner’s opinion and feelings.”

To end this exercise, thank the person and imagine to leave the restaurant.

Background:

Best is to do this exercise when you have a fresh emotion for someone. By doing this, after a few times you will notice that often :

  • what you see is also what you are
  • the person is a mirror

But I tell you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you and persecute you. (Jesus Christ, Mat 5:44)

What Jesus ultimately means is not only to forgive our enemies – but to see in every enemy ourself. He wants us to radically see and understand. Thats why he is asking us for forgiveness.

Ultimately you are not this emotion towards your enemy. What you really are can embrace everything. People and experiences in life can be seen as a way to learn about yourself.