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During the family constellation by Bert Hellinger answers to personal or general questions can be found by group dynamics. Therefore one person (either the manager / questioner, director, or the participants themselves) selects a representative intuitively in accordance to an earlier question among those present. These are placed intuitively in the room. Due to the developing psychological dynamics the representative feels like the represented people or things after a time of collection and can therefore provide information about mechanisms and involvement within the system without the mirrored people or things having to be present.
Usually it’s about the family of the creator (parents, children, grandparents, fiancé, etc.), though also companies or abstract questions (“how is the next election going to end”) can be placed.
By rearranging, questioning the Deputy about his/her emotional state, and letting-to-talk solving phrases and gestures (eg, “I’ll give you the honor,” “what ever you have with the Papa / Mama, is not my business”, “I’m the only the little one, you are the big one”), the conductor can find a nice solution for all parties involved. Pathogenic entanglements can thus be transformed and changed with new attitudes to healing solutions. The unconscious images allowing the participants new attitudes and positions in later life, without necessarily having to do anything. Participants are even encouraged to not speak about the experience but to let it be.
Background & Impact:
Using the family (family constellation, organizational setup, system installation, Systemic Structural Constellations, team formation and sculpture / family therapy) you use the phenomenon of channeling – People who are voluntary participating in a system suddenly stop perceiving themselves as such but start to feel if they were actually part of the system – they perceive themselves as “foreign” things and people. Therefore they can not only provide information about the state of this system but change the mirrored original system itself by switching and solutions.
The family constellation has created a profound emotional impact for the participants and it is one – applied properly – of the most powerful healing methods that I know of. Thousands of people now report findings and spontaneous healings. It is important to find a leader who is non-interfering (letting participants find their own solutions) intuitive, loving but also courageous (talk about everything).
Stand a few meters apart and in front of each other an open your heart.
Look past your partner and perceive their parents and all the fortunes of his family, even the heavy ones. Do so with love.
You see yourself too, there in the distance behind the partner.
Give everything to this force that is behind you: your desires, your accusations and the blame, everything we regret. Look at what has happened, something that has maybe hurt you. Something where you feel you guilty. You look further into the distance and give it to the movement of love. There it is canceled, only there.
After a while you take a look at each other.
You say to each other: “Now it may be over, it is elsewhere now.”
Look at your partner and agree with to him, just as he is – with love.
You say: “I say yes to your destiny and your fate, as it is. I say yes to your destiny and your fate, whatever it will cost me..”
Then, look back behind you again and look at the partner’s previous relationships, with love and gratitude. Say to all of them: Thank you. We take it into our common future. It has made us richer for each other. “Also, give to god’s love what might have gone wrong in these relationships.
And you hand them over to the greater power.
Look at each other again and let yourselves be led by the inner spirit.
Stand side by side. Instead of looking at the partner, look at something that you have in common. Your children for example, or some thing else that you both serve.
Background & Impact:
Walking with the Spirit is something beautiful in itself, something big and conciliatory.
None of the partners follows the other but both follow the movement of the Spirit. Thus, they are most intimately connected with each other and simultaneously free.
A couple’s relationship can succeed only if the man respects the woman, just as she is, and the woman respects the man, just as he is. This agreement is a spiritual movement that makes the partner feel safe and free.
“Just as you are, you’re right for me – just as you are, I am enjoying you.” This joy is the best agreement and it includes the whole family of the partner including all fates.