Train yourself to tell the truth as often as you can about yourself and your feelings. Say it when you’re glad and say it when you’re angry. Tell your partner and good friends what moves you. However, avoid too much openness to people with whom you feel unsure. Avoid attacking others. Stand up for your own feelings and courageously stand to them. Over time it’ll get easier to stay true to yourself in front of others and you’ll get more and more clarity about your true feelings.

Background and Effect:
The most pain comes from thoughts and feelings that are suppressed, because you think one shouldn’t  think or feel them. We often think that other people wouldn’t love us any more if they knew what we deeply and think and feel in ourselves. Exactly the opposite is true: The greatest closeness exists whenever people talk about their inner most truths and can talk about bad experiences openly.