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Speak out loud where in your career the boundaries lie, eg:
“I know I could earn more money, if (insert) …
– I would put in more overtime
– I would take a course
– I would be more active in the group
– I could sell myself better to the boss
“I know I could use my real talents better if (insert) … [...]
In your life you always fill out a variety of roles: as a child of your parents, father / mother of children, a member of any church or community, as an employee or employer, friend, husband / wife, athlete, consultant, etc.
Write all your roles on a sheet of paper.
Then consider each of these roles, which 1-2 measures would have the greatest positive impact.
These measures can be both simple and short things like “buying women flowers”, “attend a football game with Tom,” or long-term things like “going for tango course”. In most cases, those things that you recognize as truly important to you, have something to do with the maintenance of relationships or training.
Now, get your diary for next week and just write down those things that you have identified as essential for your roles, as a first and most important dates. You can move them if necessary, but they should be done within that week that you planned them in.
Do this exercise every week, best on your day off. [...]
If you think about your dream and negative beliefs come up, eg:
– “I can not afford”
– “This will not work”
– “The customers will not like it”
– “I cannot do this”
– “I will not have enough customers”
– “I’m going to be cheated”
– “What will my parents / my partner say?”
– “Everyone will laugh at me”
– “I’m not good enough”
– “I do not deserve it”
– Etc. [...]